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26
Mar
09

Fat Mentality II: people change?

w♠arning:  there’s no conclusion to this post.

previously i’ve written about fat mentality. basically when people can see they have a problem, know the solution, but just don’t take the steps toward the solution. like fat people who need to eat right and exercise. it’s right in front of their faces. in that same entry i also noted that fat mentality can be much more difficult to deal with considering it’s not visible.

i’ve been living life and just thinking about situations since then and have discovered a kind of diversion, but not solution, to fat mentality.  sometimes when people are physically fat they go on binge diets, or become anorexic, or partake in some other drastic effort to lose weight. people also go on mental binge diets in hopes of a quick fix (i’ll call it that for the sake of maintaining a theme).

this is the scenario where the mentally fat person finally says, “ok. this is bullshit. i’m fat and i need to get unfat and i need to stop eating so much”. but some times they take it too far and just stop eating (partaking in that activity) all together. and no matter how much they don’t eat, they still think it’s not enough. the whole thing stemmed out of good intention but just went overboard until they can’t take it anymore due to lack of understanding safe paths to rehabilitation.

people just do all these other things to supplement eating. smoke. consume things that have no nutritional value, eat just celery and drink water to fill up, sleep, do drugs, just do random shit to occupy their minds until they’re not hungry.

when someone is coming out of a space where they were in an unhealthy state of mind and they want to change, they often go about trying to fix themselves without really knowing how.  most often they just detach themselves from the problem.  they don’t really get over it, they get as far away from it as possible. this leads to relapse.

For example – a girl is in an abusive relationship. her fat mentality had kept her bound to it for several years. one day she realizes she needs to end the relationship, so she does. (i know it’s over simplified). the important thing to note is that she left the relationship, but didn’t get over the habit. She could go several years thinking she’s better off, thinking she’s healthy, but being human and a creature of habit, there’s a good chance she’ll find herself in the same situation again. she could meet another abusive guy and be right back in the same situation.

the real task for a person suffering from fat mentality is not to just run from or get over their problem, but to identify it, understand it, confront it, and break it. In a sense go through it.  that way there’s no turning back to it.

at this point of my entry i don’t really have a solution. it’s just something i’ve observed and experienced personally. i just needed to write it out.

hopefully i’ll be able to think of something more tangeble on the subject rather than just ramble on and on.

03
Nov
08

Thank you, Kelly Tsai.

It’s been some time since the presidential debates have been over, so forgive me if this post doesn’t seem very current. I just had to post this as I just stumbled across Kelly Tsai’s piece on Youtube. Kelly Tsai is a dope spoken word artist that I would be the least qualified to describe in a nutshell as I’m not of the spoken word community. I just appreciate it and check out her stuff every now and then online. To learn more about her, here’s the first Google page of Kelly Tsai

Anyhow, after watching all of the debates I never felt like any of the communities that I’m a part of had been addressed. There were Joe Six Packs, Soccer Moms, and the ever so famous Joe the Plumber. Oh, and the Black and White people.  That’s when Kelly’s piece, “Black, White, Whatever”, turned the light on in my head and shouted what was on the tip of my brain. Obviously she says it with much more style.  Though it’s been posted for a month now, I’m still glad I saw it later rather than never and would now like to share it with you. Enjoy.

BTW this was a featured vid on youtube, so congrats to Kelly Tsai.

“Black, White, Whatever”

02
Apr
08

Green Tea My A$$, Dad! Thanks a lot for ruining this blog for everyone!

Have you ever felt so busy that you just don’t know where the time goes because it seems like everything is moving so fast that you don’t have time to think about what you’re doing considering that there are 52 and a half deadlines that need to be met yesterday and when you actually finish those projects they just lead to more projects?

Pause…. Breathe…. Continue.

Life is really really really exciting right now but I must say that I feel incredibly busy and the days are just flying by. I think I was most concerned the other day when I looked at my clock at 3pm in the afternoon, then got freaked that the week had only 4 days left (it was Monday). It was already bad enough that I went in that morning saying, “Thank god it’s only Monday”.

I was THANKING God that it was ONLY Monday! Ahem… What??

The odd thing is that I keep thinking that I need to do MORE. I need to read more. I need to learn more. I need to eat more because somehow I lost tons of weight in my neck, making it look like I have a HUGE head. I have to exercise more because I’m losing muscle mass, so now I’m skinny and have a little neck with a huge head, like ET. I need to blog more. I need to speak up more. I need to hang out with my friends more. I need to go out and experience the world more. I need to travel more. I need to look out for myself more. I need to give myself a break more. I need to be better…more. I need to find something that makes me stop and say, “yes, this is exactly where I want to be”…more.

Hmmm…Interesting where this entry lead me. Maybe I should have started off like this:

Have you ever started down a path thinking you would go somewhere, but in the end you wound up elsewhere?

Sometimes even though “somewhere” is where you wanted to be, if you wound up in “elsewhere”, then “elsewhere” is most likely where you belong. Write that down, Confucius!

Ummmmm….What the hell did my dad put in my tea?! This is crazy talk.




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